It turns out procrastination is not typically a function of laziness, apathy or work ethic as it is often regarded to be. It’s a neurotic self-defense behavior that develops to protect a person’s sense of self-worth.
You see, procrastinators tend to be people who have, for whatever reason, developed to perceive an unusually strong association between their performance and their value as a person. This makes failure or criticism disproportionately painful, which leads naturally to hesitancy when it comes to the prospect of doing anything that reflects their ability — which is pretty much everything.
But in real life, you can’t avoid doing things. We have to earn a living, do our taxes, have difficult conversations sometimes. Human life requires confronting uncertainty and risk, so pressure mounts. Procrastination gives a person a temporary hit of relief from this pressure of “having to do” things, which is a self-rewarding behavior. So it continues and becomes the normal way to respond to these pressures.
Particularly prone to serious procrastination problems are children who grew up with unusually high expectations placed on them. Their older siblings may have been high achievers, leaving big shoes to fill, or their parents may have had neurotic and inhuman expectations of their own, or else they exhibited exceptional talents early on, and thereafter “average” performances were met with concern and suspicion from parents and teachers. —
David Cain, “Procrastination Is Not Laziness” (via pawneeparksdepartment)
This totally justifies every excuse I’ve been giving myself from not doing that thing I’m supposed to do.
One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make it worth watching. — IKEA Comercial
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Hey, Jess! :) Well…Facebook helped ;) and willl do! Haha you do have a beautiful voice, gurly :)
It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget how to live. — Albus Dumbledore (Harry Potter Series)
Love is that emotion in which the happiness of another is essential to your own.
Sometimes the most ordinary things can be made extraordinary simply by doing them with the right people.
Love is a ruthless game, unless you play it good and right. — Taylor Swift
Unfortunately, you never really hate anyone as much as someone you cared about once. — Jace Lightwood (Mortal Instruments Series)
If there’s one thing I hate…
It’s people who can’t act their own age.
I don’t know how many times in the last week I have had to say it.
You know when something annoys you and you just fill with red rage?
That’s how much I hate immaturity.
You know,those niners who fool around constantly in the hallways at school who like to think they’re so much cooler than us “boring” students who contain ourselves and walk around talking to friends like normal people should do.
If you want to fool around, go home.
You know those guys who yell and push their friends into lockers? They think they’re so funny, right?
Could have fooled me…
Everyone I know thinks it’s stupid.
Or those fake girls who think they have a right to be so dramatic about every little thing. How about the ones who like to throw the word “bitch” around?
Immaturity. Isn’t it just lovely?
Its only distracting people from growing up…nothing good ever comes from it.
Often, people I meet tell me I’m mature beyond my years. I believe them. Not be modest or anything, I just do because I see almost everything going on around me as ridiculous and I can’t get it through my had how people want to act like they do.
How about younger siblings?
Oh, this is a good one….
Horsing around on the couches, making loud noises when you’re trying to do homework…never listening to anything you tell them, but then suddenly listen when a parent tells them the same thing.
I kinda know what I’m talking about, little children, thank you very much. You can listen to me sometimes too ya know. it won’t kill you, honest!
One of my biggest pet peeves is immaturity and people who just don’t know how to sit still and calm down. It’s really not that hard.
Definitely less work than fooling around and acting crazy, I can tell you that.
Just, I don’t know, read a book. Escape into a different world where you can read about people doing stupid things for you. It’s all good.
Have you ever thought what life would be like without a computer? Without a cell phone? What about a hair dryer or alarm clock?
Technology is a human’s best friend and if it all suddenly disappeared, we’d be screwed.
We, as people have become very dependent on technology. It is how we do our projects for school. it’s how we communicate with the world. It’s how we get entertainment. We have become lazy because of it because it makes our lives so much easier.
Just think. if we didn’t have stoves, we would be forced to make a fire to cook food. If we didn’t have computers, we would have to read books to find information for our assignments…If we didn’t have phones, we wouldn’t be able to talk to our friends without going to meet them; etc etc etc.
There’s a difference between technology never existing and technology being lost. People can live if they were born in a time when there was no technology, but can they live if they were born into a world of technology and then lost it?
What do you do when your power goes out at night and your phone is dead? You can’t see anything or do anything, so you go to sleep. But how are you to get up in time for school the next day? You don’t.
See? Technology is a great thing, and it brings us much happiness, but you have to admit, we would be lost without it.
Remember in grade 3 when you found out that kid in your class is your 3rd cousin?
Remember meeting that person on vacation and going back to school and realize they go there?
Remember working at that camp in the summer and found out your roommate goes to a school in the same city as you?
Well of course that hasn’t happened to everyone, but you hear stories right?
So I found out at the beginning of this week that this guy who went to my elementary school in grade 2 and then my high school in grade 9 from the city I moved away from almost two years ago just moved to my recent high school! It’s a small world, eh? I don’t know if he recognizes me because I haven’t really talked to him since grade 2, but I found out he moved here when my friend texted me on Monday asking me how I knew him. Turns out she had to show him around the school on his first day and she noticed I was a mutual friend on facebook when she added him. Huh. Well he’s been at my school for a week and I have yet to talk to him. I mean it’s pretty cool that we move and end up at the same school, right?
These kind of things just prove that it’s a small world and you have more connections to others than you think you do. It’s fun, don’t you think? when those kinds of things happen? Just those mind blowing :hey!” moments, if you know what I mean :P
Don’t raise your voice. Improve your argument.